Helping a timid cat settle in: tips for welcoming a shy or anxious cat
What to expect from a timid or shy cat
Timid cats may be shy, cautious or nervous, especially if they have had little contact with people or were a stray. With patience and kindness, they often become incredibly loyal and loving companions. Although they may stay reserved around strangers, the bond you build with them will be truly rewarding as you watch their personality grow.
Timid cats can take weeks to months, to feel safe in a new home. It’s normal for them to hide and be withdrawn at first. They prefer small, quiet spaces and can be stressed by loud noises, sudden movements or visitors.
Some timid cats bond with the whole household, while others trust only one or two people. They thrive in calm, predictable environments. Many become playful and curious once relaxed and may enjoy the company of other cats or dogs.
Creating a safe space for an anxious cat
Start your new cat in a quiet, enclosed room as their “home base" to help nervous cats adjust and settle in.
- Choose a calm spot away from noise, traffic, and other pets, such as a spare room.
- Remove breakable items and harmful substances, secure windows, and remove large furniture that could make it difficult to interact with a hiding cat.
- Provide simple, appropriate hiding spots like a cardboard box with a blanket or a covered igloo bed.
- Include food, water, a litter tray (away from food and bedding), and a comfortable bed.
- Using a synthetic pheromone product like Feliway™ can help comfort your cat during this time.
- Limit visitors and let your cat explore at their own pace.
With time and routine, your cat will grow more confident and begin exploring the rest of your home.
Tip: It’s common for timid cat to eat little or experience mild digestive upset in the first day or two. Usually this resolves with time and a calm environment.
How to interact with a timid or anxious cat
Gaining a shy cat’s trust takes time and consistency. Follow these tips to make your interactions cat-friendly and positive:
- Move slowly and speak softly
- Avoid staring—soft blinking can signal friendliness
- Sit or crouch at their level to appear less threatening
- Allow your cat to initiate contact
To help guide your interactions, you can follow the C-A-T approach, which stands for Choice, Attention, and Touch. This simple model supports positive, cat-friendly interactions and helps build trust at your cat’s pace:
C - Choice
Allow your cat to choose whether or not to interact. Let your cat come to you. Offer your hand in a fist or gently rub your fingers to encourage approach. If the cat wants to be touched, they will rub against you. If they don't make contact, avoid stroking the cat.
A - Attention
Pay close attention to your cat’s body language. Watch for fear signs like flattened ears, crouching, rippling fur on their back, tail flicking, or wide pupils. If your cat shows these, give them space and never force interaction or pull them from hiding. Allow the cat to move away from you if they choose, and don't be tempted to follow them.
T – Touch
When your cat chooses to be touched use short, gentle strokes on the head and cheeks. Avoid the belly, legs, and tail base. Pause briefly every 3–5 s to “check in” with the cat - when you stop stroking them, do they rub against you to ask for more? If not, they may be ready for a break.
Keep a regular routine for feeding, cleaning, and quiet visits. Sit quietly nearby, talk softly or read aloud, and offer small treats to create positive associations.
Many timid cats enjoy playing with interactive toys like feather wands or fishing-pole toys. This allows them to bond with you while maintaining some distance to make them more comfortable.
What to do if your cat hides all the time
It’s normal for a new cat to hide in small, dark places like cupboards or under beds. Give your cat time to adjust without forcing them out. Spend quiet time in the same room, speaking softly or reading aloud to familiarise your cat with your voice. Hand feeding strong-smelling treats such as tuna or sardines helps build trust. Start by sitting far away and offering treats while talking gently. If your cat relaxes, gradually move closer to offer food by hand. If fearful, step back and let your cat come out when ready.
Many cats feel safer at night, so spending quiet time with them in the evening can help.
If your cat continues to hide after a week, consider consulting a veterinarian as there are calming medications and special diets that might help reduce anxiety.
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